I do not think that
question eleven of "The Importance of Being Earnest" Socratic seminar
questions received the attention it deserves. The question says, "Consider
the play's vision of marriage-both as a source of laughter and as an issue for
serious discussion." In the play, the subject of marriage was a main part
of the plot. The two main characters, Jack and Algernon, propose to ladies
during the play and their problems are about their engagements. Jack tries to
become engaged to Gwendolen while pretending his name is Ernest. Algernon
becomes engaged to Cecily, who he had just met, while using the name Ernest.
However, the idea of marriage is not as important to the girls as the name of
their fiancés
is. Throughout the play, marriage is ridiculed through the way the characters
behave in order to point out how wrong the way society views marriage is. In
the play, the basis for marriage is if the other person has the right name, the
right amount of money, or if there is some sort of attraction. The idea that
marriage is serious because it should be based on love and trust and honesty is
ridiculed through the way that Lady Bracknell views marriage. She places importance
on money and social class, and does not approve of the engagements between Jack
and Gwendolen or Algernon and Cecily, until she has determined that they are of
good standings in both places. There is little importance placed on the fact
that Jack and Algernon lied about who they were or that Algernon and Cecily had
just met that day. The author does this to comment on the way that way that
society takes marriage too lightly.
Today, marriage not taken as seriously as it once was. According the American
Psychological Association about 40-50 percent of married couples in America get
a divorce. The high divorce rate could be caused by today's basis for marriage
which is similar to the play's. Many people get married after only dating the
person for a few weeks or months or because of attractiveness or fleeting
desire or because of money and stability. Without the serious amount of time
spent together or real love, it is hard to make a marriage last. TV shows and
celerity relationships are possible causes for the decline in serious and
lasting marriages because neither place importance on what the reasons for
marriage should be and make divorces seem normal and okay. I personally have a
very serious view of relationships and marriage. My parents are divorced and I
hate that people and TV and movies make divorce okay. It's not, marriage should
be for the rest of your life, that's what you agreed to when you said, "I
do" and if even for a second you doubt that you will want it to last
forever then don't get married. Marriage is such a big deal, you are joining
two families and creating a new one, it should not be trivialized or made
commonplace. I believe that getting married should be a slow process based on
love and that people should really take time to get to know each other and be
sure before they get married. Marriage is not what it should be anymore.